Essential elements of an adequate discipline model

Know the school policy and processes regarding discipline.

Preventative discipline:

Be a positive, active role model.

Have everyone participate in creating class rules so that guidelines are clear, fair and understood.
Keep rules simple with reasonable expectations and consequences.

Be aware of meeting the five basic human needs (Glasser)
survival
power
love
fun
freedom

Provide an optimum environment that fosters a feeling of belonging, fun and learning.

Make lesson content relevant, fun, interesting and well structured so students are motivated, not bored.
Have an introduction, smooth transitions and closure.
"Set up situations where students can exhibit talents and strengths and ultimately acceptance".

Acknowledge, accept and provide for individuality and independence.
Help students feel valued and encourage their contributions.
Give positive feedback, praise the effort or deed, not the doer.
Build confidence and note that it's ok to make mistakes.

Be aware of, realistic about and sensitive to students' personalities, cultural influences, primary relationships and ideal "quality worlds" (Glasser).
What are they thinking?

Encourage self discipline and responsibility for self change.

Be firm and consistent.

Practice the 7 caring habits Avoid the 7 deadly habits
Encouraging criticizing
Supporting blaming
Listening complaining
Accepting nagging
Trusting threatening
Respecting punishing
Negotiating differences bribing or rewarding to control
(Glasser)

In the event of misbehaviour:

Aim at managing and coaching behaviour rather than controlling and confronting.

Seek to understand the reason behind inappropriate behaviour. Identify the need sought by the student and apply an appropriate strategy.

Act immediately.

Avoid power struggles, give attention to positive behaviour, redirect energy.

Use elements of Choice theory such as problem solving in the present and focusing on the source of disconnectedness.

code of conduct for parents and caregivers

Code of Conduct for parents and caregivers

Express your love for each other every day in all kinds of ways
Spend quality time together
Celebrate special occasions
Maintain a sense of humor
Be affectionate
Attitude of gratitude

Agree on rules and consequences

In the event of inappropriate behaviour:
Use time out
Respond immediately, redirect, move on
Avoid power struggles
Model appropriate behaviour
Stay calm

Be firm and flexible with routines
Value freedom and choice

Eat well (a wholesome, nourishing diet, avoid additives, processed foods, etc), share meals together
Sleep well
Monitor computer and television use

Foster 7 caring habits Avoid 7 deadly habits
Encouraging criticizing
Supporting blaming
Listening complaining
Accepting nagging
Trusting threatening
Respecting punishing
Negotiating differences bribing or rewarding to control
(Glasser)
with
Compassion
Patience
Care
Kindness
Remember self care – take time out for you

Meditate

A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.

Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace.

Chaos is inherent in all compounded things. Strive on with diligence.

Be helpful not harmful.

In the practice of tolerance, one's enemy is the best teacher.

Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

Sleep is the best meditation.

Spend some time alone every day.

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.



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